Into our life comes a person who - whether deliberate or completely innocent and unintentional - begins to steal our light, put us in their shadow, out-do us, out-shine us, and ultimately.....drain our energy, sometimes to the point of physical exhaustion.
This is excpetionally common in the corporate world where it's almost a given that you'll have to "kick some a__ to get anywhere".
"Dog eat dog world" is a common phrase to describe the forces at work in a business setting.
But sadly, it's all too common in our personal lives as well.
When we allow ( yes ALLOW ) someone to hold this power over us, we begin to feel the ravages of self-doubt, shame, hopelessness, uselessness, defeat, and depression.
It can feel like someone is tearing you apart from the inside out, especially if that person is a trusted friend, family member, or partner.
Now....what can we do to alleviate the effects and begin to heal and regain our personal power?
Here are 3 ways to begin...
1.RECOGNIZE THAT FEAR IS THE SOURCE
We all have egos.
We all want to feel good and know we have a place in this world. A special place. One to call our own. We want to shine our light and be recognized for our hard work.
Sometimes that leads to fear of losing our place, especially when someone comes along that "does it better than us" or may seem more popular and well liked.
Chances are these people suffer from insecurities, and are struggling to keep themselves afloat too. ( Everyone has their battles. )
This all comes from ego. And, contrary to popular opinion, ego does not necessarily have to be a bad thing that we discard entirely, but it DOES need balance and discipline at times, much like an unruly child that wants to be the center of attention.
Feeling good about ourselves should first come from WITHIN.
When we can smile in the mirror and truly love and accept unconditionally who we see smiling back at us, the healing has already begun.
It is the stone of love in its purest form. It facilitates healing on an emotional level and promotes compassion, understanding, and forgiveness.
Let go of the fear. Allow yourself to be free of the burden you have carried. Recognize yourself as being worthy, valuable, and beautiful for who you are and what you do in this world, regardless of who else is doing what.
Let go of anger and resentment. No need to use force, just gently let them go and affirm that
"All is well in my world. I am safe and secure "
2. BE RESPOSIBLE FOR YOUR THOUGHTS AND ACTIONS
Blaming others for where we are ( or aren't ) in life is easy. But it is also damaging to our ability to make improvements and adjustments, and to move forward with our own sacred journey.
Letting someone else's actions or place in society dictate your future is self defeating and can even be paralyzing.
To give up and do nothing is easier than to move forward through the pain and frustration of perceived "competition". But it eventually starts deteriorating us and can cause us to spiral into depression, addictions, or worse.
Don't let someone else direct your life path. Take charge, grab the reins, and forge ahead! " Carpe diem!"
3. SHIELD SHIELD SHIELD!
Last of the 3 biggies is shielding.
This can be accomplished in many and varied ways.
In my healing work, I teach shielding, but I always suggest that someone find the way they are most comfortable with.
One simple tried and true method is what I call "The Startrek method".
Remember the old episodes of star trek where they put up the forcefield around the Enterprise before they go into battle or have to face a potentially dangerous situation?
Yep, you got it! You can put up your force fields.
Visualization is a very powerful method, and remember that thoughts are energy being projected out, so if you put those shields in place, KNOW THEY ARE THERE!
Some folks like to visualize an electric neon blue or bright white light.
Encase yourself completely, from above the top of your head to below your feet, much like an eggshell.
You can expand and contract your field as you like or according to how you feel about your situation.
Pull it in close if there is someone you don't mind being in your space, push it out to 4 feet or more if there are 'negative nellies' in the area or you have to be in a crowd for any length of time.
Remember, the bubble also expands and contracts automatically to allow for people walking aorund you. Their energy cannot and will not affect you if you say NO and keep those shields up!
Even wearing colors of protection ( purple, for instance ) and carrying different stones of protection can help you in many ways.
Like I always say...research research research!
But first and foremost, it begins with YOU and how you choose to feel about a situation and how you ALLOW it to affect you or not.
We CAN transcend negative energy and protect ourselves from psychic bullies and vampires or light stealers, and we CAN change our circumstances.....no matter the situation. Really!
Have a magickal and beautiful day, my friends!
Raven
The Reiki Wytch
